“John and Jackie were at the movies…the lights went down and tension rose. After all it was only their first date. John yawns…and yes…he made the lamest move in dating history! He attempted to lay his arm across Jackie’s shoulder. She turned an looked at him…‘Would you kindly take your hand off me?’ she stated.
John lowered his arm in embarrassment. The car was quiet the whole way to the house. He wondered if he would ever see her again. He couldn’t believe he actually tried to pull it off. Not sure what to do he took a chance…laying his hand on her knee…with the fire in her eyes he realized he would have to look tomorrow for the next girl.”
In the story- John was afraid to try at first but the second time around seemed much easier. When is a good time to try to put the moves on a date. John found out that the first date may not be worth the risk. When dating it is important to understand the boundaries and determine what the other person is looking for…a boyfriend…a lover…a friend..etc. This will give them a better understanding on what direction they should take the date. For instance if the date is looking for a lover than you maybe in luck…they may want to get busy on the first date.
However if you hit on them and they were only looking for something to do and a friend you might never see them again. Blind dates maybe hard to gage however with a few questions and quick reply’s and expressions you maybe able to get a good handle on the situation. Never go into the date blind. This only sets us up to fail.
Below are a few tips to think about before you go on your next date…after all you don’t want to end up like John:
“If you are not sure what the date is looking for or even had a chance to speak with them follow these tips”
Tip 1: Start asking question in the car on the ride to your date location.
Tip 2: Watch the girls demeanor when you ask each question. If she smiles, if she becomes serious, even if she is quiet. This can help you determine if you are on the right track.
Tip 3: Be subtle. If you are working to see if she is interested do little things to drop hints, a joke, a comment, a smile she will pick it up.
“If you have spoken to your date ahead of time follow these tips”
Tip 1: Ask her what she is looking for in your date. Being upfront and honest will get you many brownie points in the world of women.
Tip 2: let her know you are interested. Women are good at picking up on little things. Let her know you are interested in her, smile, tell a joke, and Listen these are things they look for.
Tip 3: Don’t rush. If you rush you make mistakes. Let things unfold. A simple nudge, a slight wink of the eye, a smile can quickly lead to other things.
The biggest thing about dating is picking up on the messages she is throwing your way. If you feel tension it is probably not a good idea to try and get busy! Or you could end up like John!
Until next time,
October 14th, 2008 at 2:32 pm
I am agree with this article. When somebody’s dating get success, there is no impossibility for sex. But it require some time. After that do what ever you want.